Relationships

Why do we want to get into a relationship??
This question has been bugging me from quite some time now and I finally came round to writing something about it. Well the answer to the above question is fairly simple.
Infatuation.
We feel infatuated to the opposite sex, feel that he or she is so perfect for you and this starts the whole chain of events resulting in you "in a relationship"
Okay. So this was about relationships. But why do you want to commit to the other person.
I'm not saying go around fooling with other people and play with feelings but why commit your entire life to someone at a tender age?
Yes, A tender age. And unless and until you're over 25 or something, keep reading.
Starting from High School, people start getting together with others and commit themselves to an everlasting relationship with them. But what they don't realize is that they haven't seen anybody!!
I mean you've just seen so limited people in your life and you already feel you've found the perfect match for you?
From school, you go to college. From college you go and get a job. During college you meet so many different people.
So why commit yourself to someone when you never know your better half could still be out there just traveling on his/her path leading to you?
And even if you don't find such a perfect person, its not like you're going to abandon the others right?
So before you commit yourself to anybody, just think about this how much of life have you actually seen that you're ready to spend the remainder of yours with him.
Experience life yourself before wanting to spend it with anybody else. And think before taking a decision. Most of those don't come again.

Happiness

How To Kill Hope - Dedicated to a Beloved

There are times when there is a person stuck inside our heads. Someone whom you may 'Like' or 'Have a crush on' or 'you're in love with'. This was the very situation I was in when I actually first thought about How can I Kill Hope.

Life is strange. The person in question was someone whom I got acquainted even less than an year ago. And to anybody who might see us talking, It'll seem like we've been the best of friends since ages.

When I first met her, I had a certain attraction towards her. My best guess would be her smile. Being a shy person I wouldn't say that we had some sort of instant connection, But when we exchanged numbers and we started talking, That's when the magic happened and we became friends. And in a little more time, Best friends!

Now I wouldn't say I eventually "fell in love" with her. Because quite frankly speaking I still do not know what love actually is. But my emotions and feelings grew stronger for her by every passing day.
When I told this to one of our mutual friend, She told me that It cannot happen and that I should not think further on this matter. That Night I weeped with the thought of not having her with me as my beloved for the rest of my life.

The following morning I decided to Kill all of my hope I have for her. Each and every shred of it.

Change is never easy. You fight to let go. You fight to hold on. And while all this fighting is taking place, we grab onto the thing which is closest to you and call it hope.

Growing out of a feeling is never easy. You love to hold on to things which you like. But I believe that somewhere deep down, You do know when it's over and pointless to begin. It's just that we choose not to listen to that.

You don't really need to kill hope. Without Hope, there isn't anything much left within us. Rather just concentrate those feelings on better things, close friends, the beautiful nature & be ready to face life. 

If your feelings are reciprocated by your counterpart. She'll come to you. Believe me, She will. Because Love is never born alone. Always in a pair. And If you feel you've met your perfect ONE, Then obviously she'll realize it too. Just a matter of time. Till then, Channelize your energy and continue to live life. And do it with a smile! =)

Change

Change is a part of life. Inevitable. Everything we have done and will do will define who we are.
Look back a year, and You'll realize how much you have changed, 'grown' in fact.
So why does one worry about change?

You say you don't. So tell me would you be comfortable in moving to a house with a limited amount of money? So limited that you're forced to buy your own food and make it?
Or would you be comfortable in just changing your daily routine of travelling from the car and take a bus instead? or would it be totally fine if you would instead of wearing fancy clothes, Just wear a loose T & shorts to go out??
Even if not one of these, Everyone knows beyond a certain point, The get 'uncomfortable'. And not safety hazardous or uncomfortable, but non-cozy uncomfortable.
So here's my point. Try doing on of those things. Regularly. And not daily regularly, but at least a biweekly.
Because some changes actually make you more self sufficient and it will only make your future easier to live in.
Just like in the movie 'Yes Man' & what my friend advised me. Try saying Yes to the next thing that happens to you.
You never know how it will Enrich you. :)

Love What You Do!

If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap.

If you want happiness for a day, go for a picnic.

If you want happiness for a week, go on a vacation.

If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune.

If you want happiness for a lifetime, learn to love what you do! :)

You are Fortunate!

So well, I goto college. And in my college, there are a couple of blind people who also study..... In regular Classrooms!

So one fine day I was standing out in our ground where I saw this one man who was walking around. I went close to him... Well kinda close and he automatically came up to me and asked, can you drop me off to the bus stop?
I wanted to help him out so I said yes, held his hand, and started walking with his pace.
Now how many of you have seen the Bollywood Hindi movie  Ghajini??
In the movie in one particular scene, the lead actress helps out a blind man and also tells him what all is happening along the way like kids playing etc.
So I started walking out and suddebly he said, what's happening?
I wondered what he was talking about. And then i noticed that the drama society was practicing. I suddenly felt a rush of gratitude for everyone and everything Ihad known.
Being with him I ACTUALLY felt how hard it must be living life.
Most of you must've heard only or been told that be fortunate for the things we have and that we're not blind or deaf or well disabled in any form, But actually being with such a person, it was a real eye opener!
That drama practice was one of the few things we would sed and go on along the eay. But for him it was a mystery unless someone told him what they were doing!
So I won't say thank god that you dont have any such disability.... but ATLEAST once in your life, spend 5 minutes with such a person.
You will realize the value of life.
And then again you can start being fortunate for being able to read this, Having a device to read this, internet and of course, the life you're living.

Dreams

Starting from when we were young we have dreamt about what we are going to become. The Question has been asked to us several times, "What do you want to become?" "Where do you see yourself in 15 years from now?"
Dreams are our most fundamental force to drive us on our path to achieve destiny. Speaking of which, How many really believe in destinies?

And by dreams, I dont mean where you imagined youself in a comic book, or you were Cinderella or Saving the city with your super hero powers, But actual practical dreams which donot let you sleep at night. Those which you have been wanting to accomplish every second you breathe.

Everyone wants happiness, success and wants to make a difference in their life.

Well Here's what you gotta do.

Have FAITH!

Believe in yourself that you can and have the strength to do what you want and be who you want to be. Because dreams are meant to change into reality if you really desire.

Let go of those who bring you down & surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you. Do what you want & Be what you wanna be. No one has the strength to stop what you want to do. You are indeed in control of your life.

Live your dream